From a Victim’s Script to a Hero’s Story
In my family you know someone is writing a “victim’s script” when you hear another family member say, “Stop blowing up the balloons for your pity party.”
When the balloons for the pity party start popping up, that is an indication the “victim’s script” is running the show in your mind.
The victim mentality means we are NOT taking responsibility and feel sorry for ourselves when things go rogue.
It’s an “easy” way out of the situation.
The hero is willing to deal with the victim’s limiting beliefs by shifting their perspective, by practicing gratitude, by taking responsibility for feelings and actions.
The hero knows set backs are the fuel required to become someone greater.
We all have moments when we suffer from the victim mentality, no matter how strong or weak we think we are.
It’s important to remember in every situation - we control and choose the story we tell ourselves.
We have the power to shift from writing a victim’s script in our mind to instead writing a hero’s story.
The difference between a “script” and a “story” is the script is never good enough to make it to the big screen.
A STORY has a journey - every hero starts at the bottom or on the wrong side of an obstacle.
The hero’s story is worth following because of the determination and perseverance they use to make it to the end triumphant.
The victim mentality script is just… boring. Not to mention the victim never wins in the end..
A hero will build awareness around thought patterns and feelings.
With a strong awareness, a hero can shift to their story to one that’s worth telling and that will inspire others.
When we are working on our mindset, we think we have to always control it.
If you think about it, we actually don’t control any of our thoughts or feelings.
Thoughts and feelings will happen naturally.
What we CAN control is our management of those thoughts and feelings through mindset tools and techniques.
Here is an example of each line of thinking.
The situation is you aren’t in the starting lineup, you didn’t make the team you wanted, or just made a huge mistake that cost the team the game….
VICTIM SCRIPT:
“I am absolutely awful. Why do I even try? How come [teammate] got in there, but I’m not good enough to play? I’m just going to sit here, cross my arms, and not cheer for anyone.”
HERO’S STORY:
“Okay, this is good. I have a significant role on my team and today it’s to be the best teammate. When my time comes I will be ready and be prepared to change the game. I know this will make me stronger. This is an important part of my story”
The challenges, the setbacks, the hiccups we experience are a part of every road traveled.
The hero believes unexpected setbacks are an invaluable tool that makes them more prepared for other challenges to come.
The hero creates a story of empowerment - they are reminded of powerful self-truths when the going gets tough.
The hero creates a story around the ability to recover, rebuild, and overcome any challenge with a positive and optimistic attitude.
The hero reminds and repeats affirmations:
I am strong and powerful.
I am capable.
I can give more than I think.
I am resourceful.
I am patient.
I am prepared and believe in myself.
I am ready for anything.
The dialogue between the victim and the hero will always be at odds in our head.
YOU get to choose which character dominates the conversation - the line of thinking that gets your energy is the character that does the talking and directing.
We have the choice to go with “easy” or “hard” when choosing our character.
The hero’s journey and story is hard, but one worth telling.
Next time you see the colorful (or muted) balloons for your pity party, shift your thinking to a hero’s story. Your powerful thoughts will allow you to let go and watch the balloons float away.
You have the power to shift the inner conversation and perspective of your situation. Be the HERO!
